3 Approaches from Therapists that Make a Difference in Therapy
Therapy is a powerful tool for personal growth and healing, but not all approaches are created equal. This article explores three transformative techniques used by expert therapists that can significantly impact the therapeutic process. From reframing diagnoses to cultivating grit and balancing emotional support with practical steps, these insights offer a fresh perspective on effective therapy.
- Reframing Diagnosis as Unique Operating System
- Facing Oneself Through Therapeutic Grit
- Balancing Emotional Support with Practical Steps
Reframing Diagnosis as Unique Operating System
It's Not a Deficit, It's a Different Operating System
The single most appreciated aspect of my approach, according to my patients, is when I help them reframe their diagnosis from a lifelong deficit into a different kind of operating system with its own unique strengths. This is especially true for neurodivergent conditions like ADHD.
For example, instead of just using the clinical label, I often describe ADHD as having a "Ferrari brain with bicycle brakes." This metaphor instantly resonates with them. It acknowledges the reality that their mind is incredibly fast, powerful, and capable of making creative leaps that others can't. The problem isn't the engine; it's the braking system needed for control, focus, and direction.
This approach is profoundly beneficial because it dismantles years of shame and self-criticism. Patients stop seeing themselves as "broken" or "lazy" and start seeing themselves as the driver of a high-performance machine who just needs to learn how to handle it. Our work together then shifts from "fixing a disorder" to "upgrading the brakes and learning to drive." This sense of agency and empowerment is often the first and most crucial step toward making meaningful, lasting change.
Facing Oneself Through Therapeutic Grit
What I appreciate most about my psychologist's approach is that he doesn't try to fix me—he helps me face myself.
He doesn't fill the silence. He doesn't over-explain. He listens as if it's a discipline, not a courtesy. And when he does speak, he cuts through the fog. No coddling. No jargon. Just sharp, honest reflection.
There was a point where I kept burning out—over-functioning at Ridgeline, carrying too much emotional weight from the clients, and avoiding personal boundaries. I'd show up for everyone except myself.
He didn't give me a checklist or some cookie-cutter coping strategy. He asked why that pattern felt safer than slowing down. That hit hard. It wasn't about time management. It was about identity—who I thought I had to be to stay useful.
That's the power of his approach. He holds space but doesn't let me hide.
As a business owner in the recovery space, I need that kind of therapeutic grit. I need someone who doesn't just nod—but calls me out, holds me up, and reminds me that self-awareness isn't optional if I want to lead well.
That mindset has shaped how I lead Ridgeline. I train my staff the same way—to stay curious, to be direct but kind, to never assume we know someone's whole story. Because real healing happens when people feel seen, not managed.
So yes, what I value most? He respects my resilience but never lets me weaponize it against myself. That kind of therapy doesn't just support me—it sharpens me.
Balancing Emotional Support with Practical Steps
One thing I appreciate most about my psychologist's approach is how they focus on practical, actionable steps while still offering emotional support. It's not just about talking through problems but actively working together to develop strategies that help me handle stress, anxiety, or challenges. This combination of empathy and structure has made a huge difference for me. Instead of feeling overwhelmed, I leave each session with a clearer understanding of what I can do moving forward. This approach doesn't just help me manage my issues—it empowers me to tackle them head-on and build resilience for the future. It's been incredibly beneficial in making real progress, not just in understanding my emotions but in improving my overall mental well-being.
